"Bad Guys" are contrary to everything that embodies peace, calm, structure, and too much like right!! "Bad Guys" are rule breakers, rule makers, takers, manipulators, great lovers and shakers!
Chaos is always present or nearby and violence is the primary form of communication. Now why on earth would that be so attractive to good girls? That is a very good question.
In the world of "nice" where people play by the rules and always try to make good with each other is not only boring but REALLY FAKE!! People aren't expressing how they really feel and aren't being true to who they really are. They are just going along to get along until a "Bad Guy" comes along.
Bad guys display CONFIDENCE as if they have mastered every craft and can do all things if they only tried. They are like super heroes searching high and low for their heroin with "good girl" traits. These dudes are also very AMBITIOUS. No it's not in a good way as in a 9 to 5, but whatever the hustle is....he takes initiative and is dedicated to the end (jail or death). As risky as it is...it excites women because that is some ish we would never do! Because he takes big risks...so are the rewards. These guys find ways to be the provider and protector. Provide by any means necessary and protect the wife and family with force --------------------->>>>>
Hmmmm judging by a lot of women's check list for the perfect man, it is almost guaranteed that the "bad guy" fits the description. Women want a man who can provide.....check, women want a masculine manly man.....check, a woman wants to feel secure and protected....check, a woman wants a man in control......check, a woman wants a man to speak his mind/thoughts/ideas freely....check, a woman wants a man who will make ends meet when things don't happen according to plan....check...a woman wants a man who adorns himself with only the best fashion, food, cars, homes etc.....check, a woman wants a man who has business to tend to and is not under her 24/7...check. But most importantly, a woman wants to feel loved and appreciated.....check. "Bad Guys" tend to be mannerable, polite, and tender with the woman they love and adore. They aim to please from their gentle side because all day every day it's a jungle out there ------------>>>>
Being with one's polar opposite can be a breath of fresh air. Each is teaching the other something new and getting in touch with their inner self. If you think about it...most people really aren't opposites..they are just mirror images from within. "Good Girls" really have a not so good side to them but they are afraid to show it so they live through "Bad Guys" and vice versa. Check out this youtube to see what I mean.
Good girls like bad boys until they turn into grown ass women and want a grown ass man....
ReplyDeleteThe provisionary check that most women require for themselves from a man is always complete when they find a man who is about his business, about his family and most importantly, comfortable in his own skin.
I love this entry! It has a lot of truth and depth to it!!!Salute! YABTL!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteTruthfully Rob, a man with those qualities who is legit is not a "good guy" he is a "great guy" and every woman wants him. The problem is...there just isnt enough of him to go around. I would have to say that most men who make good money have confidence but the way that he makes that money alters his character. When he makes it with no worries, that guy tends to be arrogant and not so appreciative of his woman. He treats her as if she is replaceable and should acknowledge that he is doing her a favor by being in a relationship with her. Bad guys treat "the one" like a queen and will ride or die for his wife if he feels someone tried to disrespect her.
ReplyDeleteThat's exactly how guys of that caliber should be...and you explained it like a real woman would...or shall I say a GROWN ASS WOMAN...
ReplyDeleteAs far as that guy who doesn't value his woman like he's supposed to as opposed to his job, that dude doesn't love what he does for a living nor (in my opinion) does he get anything out of it. If a woman has shown you she love's you through thick and thin (like when you have two pairs of pants and three shirts, matched with one pair of shoes, but you make it work as well as you not havin' any coin in ya pocket)....that woman should be treated as your equal, like no woman could even begin to attempt to try to get him...now if that's supposed to be the good guy...
the bad guy is this....he may treat his woman like a queen and ride or die like it's his most prized possession, but that at times makes that bad guy fall into the mindset of being arrogant and not appreciating his lady...
I've been both in my life and honestly, having a woman who is a square works better than a woman who knows damn near every ninja on that street and always knows where it's happening at...I guess when we reach a certain mindset, we decide who or what type of person we want to give our all to...but until we do that, we end up with what we put off...
Rob I LOVE ur input and opinions!!!
ReplyDeleteI can honestly say that I blog typically from my personal experiences and inner feelings. So with this particular blog....I have dated both "good guys" and "bad guys." If I had to choose, I would choose the "bad guy." It has more to do with how he treats me vs. how he is riding around and getting it. As a "good girl" who is conscious but not super street smart, I have observed that a lot of "good guys" want to be "bad guys" not so much in their everyday life but only in how they treat their women but they go about it ALL wrong...epic fail! Because what "good guys" don't know about "bad guys" is that when they choose to be in a realtionship...they are actually very loving and respectful.
I have been so DISRESPECTED by dudes notably recognized as "good guys" where a street dude or "bad guy" would NEVER EVEN go there!!! I am still shocked at some of the things said and done to me by "good guys" like a deer caught in head lights...lol. But like you said, to each his own. I am not going out there hand picking "bad guys" and trust I would love to have a "good guy" if only he would treat me with the same admiration and respect as a "bad guy," pow problem solved that would be the best of both worlds. And since we can't have it all, I'll just have a "bad guy" lol.
I can dig it....so when does being a bad guy get old?.....I was told once that me being a bad guy was getting old a few times, it never changed me, but those lady's did come back around more than a few times years and years later...lol
ReplyDeleteRob it never gets old because its not about how u make a living its about how u treat us and make us feel. A good guy would be perfect and to some women he is...as long as he knows how to make her feel safe, loved, protected and respected.
ReplyDeleteI have always wondered why some females stay wit these ninjas who cheat on um, break they hearts (and faces at times) and just put up wit the most...but these are ladies who like "bad boys"....now don't get me wrong some bad boys turn that persona down because they have a job to uphold or understand that being a bad boy 25/8 ain't the business....(that's what I learned)....but like I keep saying, to each their own....
ReplyDeleteI understand as of the past four years how I want my life to be, and it's with peace....drama done made me sprout gray hair...lol
What about the "Good" Bad Boys? Those are the ones have live an honest life, but still have the 'bad boy' traits. He treas his woman/wife like a queen and all the other good stuff, but in the end gets the shaft. Where do they belong? What's to become of them? Don't they deserve love as well? They are sometimes the ones that approach the women and get shot down all the time, because the "bad boys," have treated the women so badly that they are afraid to give them a chance, or they have to endure the pain from previous relationships.
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ReplyDeleteIsland Prince....all I can say is awwwwwww. So are you telling me that you got the shaft for being good to your woman? Good Bad Boys are cool, I think it all boils down to how much she is into you. I believe that the more attractive the person is, the more we are likely to stick around a little longer...lol. No but seriously, there isn't going to be one specific formula that is fool proof for long term relationships. There is always going to be an issue somewhere. I say, just be true to who you are...don't change for anyone. Whoever you are meant to be with surface at some point, just enjoy those who cross your path right now.
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